Watch the below video by the Suzy Lamplugh Trust for more information on what stalking is.
Understanding Stalking: A Guide for Nescol Students
What is Stalking?
Stalking is a pattern of behaviour directed at a specific person that causes them to feel scared, harassed, or threatened. It involves repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other behavior that puts the person in fear for their safety.
Recognising Stalking Behavior
Stalking can take many forms, and it’s important to recognize the signs. Some common stalking behaviors include:
Unwanted Communication: Repeated phone calls, text messages, emails, or messages on social media.
Following and Monitoring: Being followed, watched, or spied on by someone, whether in person or through digital means.
Showing Up Uninvited: Appearing at your home, school, or workplace unexpectedly.
Sending Unwanted Gifts: Receiving unwanted letters, gifts, or any other items.
Threats and Intimidation: Direct or indirect threats to harm you, your loved ones, or your pets.
Damaging Property: Vandalizing your property or the property of those close to you.
Impact of Stalking
Stalking can have severe emotional, psychological, and physical effects on victims. Common impacts include:
Emotional Distress: Anxiety, depression, and feelings of helplessness.
Disruption of Daily Life: Changes in routines, such as altering your route to work or school, or avoiding social situations.
Fear and Paranoia: Constant fear of being watched or followed.
Physical Symptoms: Sleep disturbances, loss of appetite, or other stress-related health issues.
What to Do If You’re Being Stalked
If you think you are being stalked, it’s important to take action to protect yourself:
Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Trust your gut feelings about your safety.
Document Everything: Keep a record of all incidents, including dates, times, and descriptions of the behaviour. Save any messages, letters, or gifts.
Avoid Contact: Do not engage with the stalker. Any form of contact can encourage further unwanted behaviour.
Inform Others: Tell friends, family, and colleagues about the situation. The more people who are aware, the more support you will have.
Secure Your Information: Adjust your privacy settings on social media, change your passwords, and consider altering your daily routines.
Seek Help: Contact local authorities to report the stalking. Nescol’s student support services can also provide guidance and assistance.
Getting Support
Nescol offers resources and support for students dealing with stalking. Here are some options:
Student Support Services: The student support team can offer advice, counseling, and practical help.
Campus Security: Report any incidents to campus security, who can help ensure your safety on campus.
Report and Support: Report any incidents for yourself or on behalf of another. This can be done anonymously
Local Resources: Some local organizations and hotlines specialize in helping stalking victims. They can provide additional support and guidance.
Remember, you are not alone, and there are people, and resources available to help you. Your safety and well-being are the top priorities.
Conclusion
Understanding what stalking is and knowing how to recognise and respond to it are crucial steps in protecting yourself. Nescol is committed to ensuring a safe and supportive environment for all students. If you ever find yourself in a situation where you feel unsafe or harassed, reach out for help immediately.
